Here Valerie shares her insights on creativity, addiction, recovery, healing and psychodrama.
“The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.” – Melody Beattie We’re about to embark on a new decade, and we have the opportunity to view 2020 as a fresh start. We can begin this process by first conceptualizing the change you’d like to see transpire in your life. Then, ask yourself some questions – How will I get there? What steps do I need to take? Cultivating goals and healthy habits into your life can help pave the road for future happiness and success. Making healthy choices can increase our quality of […]
The holidays can be both joyful and challenging, especially for people early in their recoveries. As 2019 draws to a close, it can be helpful to take time to reflect on the past year. Reviewing what you’ve accomplished, and also what you are ready to let go of, may help create space for closure of the decade and help welcome 2020 with a fresh mindset. A great benefit of self-reflection is that it provides a better overview and can help to process events in your life – knowing that they are in the past may create hope for the upcoming year. Turning everything over to a power greater than yourself […]
“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie Thanksgiving can be a time to reflect on the year and express gratitude to people, places and things that have served us well. Gratitude is a habit we can develop as we learn to recognize and express appreciation to all aspects of life, not only when things go the way we want them to. As life naturally ebbs and flows, we can be mindful of what we are grateful for to help cope with feelings of frustration or negativity. If the gratitude mindset is a struggle to introduce, perhaps begin by […]
It was Bill Wilson, the founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, who called emotional sobriety the “next horizon” to be met once physical sobriety is achieved. Emotional sobriety is often considered the foundation of all recovery. When our emotions are out of control, so is our thinking. Until we deal with the buried feelings that caused the addictive behavior, our lives and our relationships may feel unmanageable. The ability to self-regulate, know appropriate boundaries, and deal with life on life’s terms are all parts of emotional sobriety. Gaining emotional sobriety helps us feel more confident, less insecure, and acts as a framework for maintaining abstinence. It is an evolving process, but when you […]
Hello everyone, I’m really thrilled to be joining The Inner Stage. I wanted to take a moment to introduce myself and share a bit about my work. My path to becoming a therapist was a bit roundabout. I’ve always been interested in people more than anything: specifically, the ways that we connect with others, struggle, and grow. When I was younger this interest took the form of creative writing: mostly poems, short stories, and the odd fragment of a novel. In college I majored in Education, intrigued by how our schooling system fosters (or fails to foster) community, respect, and trust. I loved researching and writing about how building interpersonal […]
“The only person you can now or ever change is yourself. The only person that it is your business to control is yourself.” – Melody Beattie As Melody Beattie, co-dependency expert, asks…is your partner’s problem your problem? Have you found yourself in relationships with people you feel you need to fix? Do you work at jobs where you are the “good sport” who will handle things that no one else wants to? Are you often tending to your partner’s life, losing sight of your own feelings and desires? Co-dependency is a behavioral pattern which can affect an individual’s ability to have healthy, mutually fulfilling relationships in all parts of life. If you […]
It can be easy to neglect taking care of ourselves when we’re busy and overwhelmed. In fact, when we’re stressed, self-care may be perceived as an afterthought rather than part of our daily routine. Showing ourselves love and care is an active way to enhance our physical/mental/spiritual health and improve quality of life. Preference about what forms of self-care are right for us is individual and personal. However, some fundamental ideas include eating well, moderate exercise, adequate sleep, healthy relationships, creative pursuits, music, 12 step programs, meditation, yoga and more. This month, I am running an open psychodrama workshop where we’ll discover our unique forms of self-care, what gets in […]
Recovery is hard work. It involves going to meetings, getting a sponsor, working the steps, among other challenges like confronting painful emotions and dealing with old wounds. Individuals in substance abuse recovery often need to avoid past toxic party habits by avoiding people, places and things, and learn to seek other sources of sober “fun”. Recovery also involves learning how to be emotionally sober and live life on life’s terms. In my practice, I have seen transformational results with clients who have learned to let go, play, and get to know their inner child through psychodrama. This month, I will be hosting an open psychodrama workshop at my new Inner […]
Check out Valerie’s blog post on her authentic journey! We will release blocks to authenticity and learn to feel passion in our lives at our next Restart Retreat from September 26-30, 2018, Embracing Our Authentic Joy. Join us!
Psychodrama, an Experiential Treatment, Helps Diffuse Anger: Reducing anger opens possibilities for compassion and connection
Valerie’s Psychology Today guest blog post